A Testimony shared by Aisha Harvey
On my friends behalf , I would like to share something with you all .. The purpose of telling you this is so that you can hear about a man's deep love for God & the struggles that he attained because he would not stop loving God ... I cant mention any names out of privacy but the story is real & I believe that it should be told .
This story resembles Job's story in many ways ...
My friend grew up in church , they grew up with the John Wesley theology , and were very much involved with church. Through his adolescence up until becoming a man he stayed on the path God put him on. Avoiding sexual relationships , drugs , smoking , alcohol, pornography troublemaking. He was a young man after Gods own heart. God gave him all the characteristics of a good man , son , brother, nephew, cousin, friend. Durning his high school years he worked long & hard to save money for college . Upon graduating high school , he chose a Christian University & majored in Chemistry. Durning his first semester of college he was introduced to a female student that needed help with car repairs . Being the person that he was , he was happy to help. Eventually that need from her turned into many other needs & before he knew it he was her personal handyman . At first he had no desire for a personal relationship with her & did not find her to be his type . But something was drawing them closer together & he realizes now he should of been in prayer about that. Cause what happened next would devastate his whole life for years to come .
They ended up having sex together . She wasn't even a girlfriend , and was already a mother of a 2 year old who wasn't taking care of her child. He made a huge mistake & he knew it. But the guilt he had by his sin kept him sinning as he kept seeing her in that way. They had nothing in common but that sin. Eventually he decided to end their sexual affair & try and forget about it but she would not let that happen as she would call, go to & fro the campus always searching for him. She eventually found him, and would not take no for an answer.
When summer break approached he told her he was going away, back to his home town to visit his family & work for the summer. She was angry , & begged & pleaded for him not to leave. She felt he was abandoning her & she gave him hell for that . He told her he would be back, after all he had to come back to school after break. She would call his mothers house were he was staying everyday crying , screaming & begging for him to go back to her. But he was already working. He received a call from her that would forever change his life. She told him she was" pregnant " & that the baby was his & that he needed to come home right away. He wondered how this could of happened when he knew she took contraceptive pills everyday. But nonetheless he went home to take care of his responsibilities & provide for his future wife & child. Not knowing at the time that she lied about being pregnant , But got pregnant a month in a half later due to not taking her pills & having unprotected sex with him when he came back home. He always wondered why his daughter was 5 weeks late , but never really thought to deep on that subject . Their relationship was based on sin & lies . And the foundation was made of sand . They got married right away & eventually had another child. He worked his butt off to support his wife & children & still attend school as a full time student finally graduating with a Bachelors in Chemistry. His marriage was nothing to celebrate as there was much turmoil & as he calls it gnashing of teeth. Already on the brink of divorce , he knew this wasn't the life God had intended for him, but the guilt would be the thing to keep him in this bind. He kept his family in church & strived to be a Godly man . But he was being very badly abused , emotionally, verbally , & psychologically everyday. It was a living hell for him but he stayed. She would threaten he would never see his children again . That's including the daughter she already had before she met him as he wanted to do the right thing and legally adopt her & give her his last name. He dearly loved his children & couldn't bare the thought of never seeing them grow up. So he stayed. His wife grew worse over the years with hate & anger for men & especially her husband. Apparently she didn't have a happy childhood & hated her parents. She would often compare her husband to her father , but he couldn't understand why because he acted nothing of the sort as her father did. As a matter a fact if there would of been a world wide contest on the greatest husband & father , my friend thought he would of been the winner without a doubt. But there was nothing he could do to please her or make her happy.
About ten years into their marriage he finally acknowledged there was something terribly wrong with her , so he suggested talking with a therapist . The therapist said his wife displayed a lot of the signs & symptoms of having a psychiatric illness called "borderline personality disorder" now some think this is a type of demonic influence , others think it's a mental illness that can be somewhat controlled with therapy & medications . But during that time there wasn't a lot of research done on it. So he didn't know how bad this would manifest out of control. But instead supported her & helped her along in life as a husband should. She was put on medication and that helped a little bit. But the terrible life still continued & he still stayed. He started to build their future with the wonderful jobs he was able to get with his education , ethics , morals , and great values. As there daughters grew up his wife taught them to hate men, lie , cheat , argue , fight , disrespect and dishonor their father. And there was nothing that he could do to stop this as it was mostly done behind his back . His wife was a stay at home mom & he worked to have and continue a good living. As she was causing discord in her own home , causing division in the multiple churches they belonged to cause she couldn't learn to like anybody , he was doing what he thought was the right thing to do by God & continue to stay. At 40 he found himself having no relationships with friends , or family , no control of any money or say so in the household & in fear everyday from the rages & evilness she displayed to him. Through all this he still looked to God for strength & guidance .
Everything else in his life was great! But his home life was unbearable & he knew she needed counseling again , but not with pastors of the church this time around. Someone who was trained to deal with illness? He told her that if she didn't change her ways this time , that he was going to have to leave . After that final session , she informed him that she wanted a divorce & he decided then & there that he wasn't going to let her abuse him or take advantage of him any longer. By the end of that week she was begging him back crying , telling him she'll change. She'll get help. But those are things that she said durning the course of their marriage & he no longer believed that. So he stood fast & continued with their legal separation that took almost 5 years . Why did it take so long ? Cause it was one nastiest divorces one has ever heard of. She kept it going so long , tried to ruin him financially , ruined his reputation in the community , eventually he even lost both of his properties all his personal items which were never returned to him, his grown children hate him because they are still under their mothers influence , after 27 years he left that relationship with literally his clothes on his back & his car. Now here comes the cool part brothers & sisters! No matter what he was going through he turned to God , he stayed in church , he lived a life that was pleasing to God & he was blessed with freedom, salvation . To this day he says he wouldn't care if he lost a hundred properties or 100 children , or billions of dollars , nothing was worse than being in that awful relationship . He didn't blame God , but took responsibility for his bad choices in life & repented! This man is truly blessed! He know has a new home , remarried to a lovely Godly women & has to step children who love him & care for him as real family should . He is a happy & content man & has the best wife in the world .
God gives & takes away.. But his forgiveness is always there & his blessings are bountiful!
This story resembles Job's story in many ways ...
My friend grew up in church , they grew up with the John Wesley theology , and were very much involved with church. Through his adolescence up until becoming a man he stayed on the path God put him on. Avoiding sexual relationships , drugs , smoking , alcohol, pornography troublemaking. He was a young man after Gods own heart. God gave him all the characteristics of a good man , son , brother, nephew, cousin, friend. Durning his high school years he worked long & hard to save money for college . Upon graduating high school , he chose a Christian University & majored in Chemistry. Durning his first semester of college he was introduced to a female student that needed help with car repairs . Being the person that he was , he was happy to help. Eventually that need from her turned into many other needs & before he knew it he was her personal handyman . At first he had no desire for a personal relationship with her & did not find her to be his type . But something was drawing them closer together & he realizes now he should of been in prayer about that. Cause what happened next would devastate his whole life for years to come .
They ended up having sex together . She wasn't even a girlfriend , and was already a mother of a 2 year old who wasn't taking care of her child. He made a huge mistake & he knew it. But the guilt he had by his sin kept him sinning as he kept seeing her in that way. They had nothing in common but that sin. Eventually he decided to end their sexual affair & try and forget about it but she would not let that happen as she would call, go to & fro the campus always searching for him. She eventually found him, and would not take no for an answer.
When summer break approached he told her he was going away, back to his home town to visit his family & work for the summer. She was angry , & begged & pleaded for him not to leave. She felt he was abandoning her & she gave him hell for that . He told her he would be back, after all he had to come back to school after break. She would call his mothers house were he was staying everyday crying , screaming & begging for him to go back to her. But he was already working. He received a call from her that would forever change his life. She told him she was" pregnant " & that the baby was his & that he needed to come home right away. He wondered how this could of happened when he knew she took contraceptive pills everyday. But nonetheless he went home to take care of his responsibilities & provide for his future wife & child. Not knowing at the time that she lied about being pregnant , But got pregnant a month in a half later due to not taking her pills & having unprotected sex with him when he came back home. He always wondered why his daughter was 5 weeks late , but never really thought to deep on that subject . Their relationship was based on sin & lies . And the foundation was made of sand . They got married right away & eventually had another child. He worked his butt off to support his wife & children & still attend school as a full time student finally graduating with a Bachelors in Chemistry. His marriage was nothing to celebrate as there was much turmoil & as he calls it gnashing of teeth. Already on the brink of divorce , he knew this wasn't the life God had intended for him, but the guilt would be the thing to keep him in this bind. He kept his family in church & strived to be a Godly man . But he was being very badly abused , emotionally, verbally , & psychologically everyday. It was a living hell for him but he stayed. She would threaten he would never see his children again . That's including the daughter she already had before she met him as he wanted to do the right thing and legally adopt her & give her his last name. He dearly loved his children & couldn't bare the thought of never seeing them grow up. So he stayed. His wife grew worse over the years with hate & anger for men & especially her husband. Apparently she didn't have a happy childhood & hated her parents. She would often compare her husband to her father , but he couldn't understand why because he acted nothing of the sort as her father did. As a matter a fact if there would of been a world wide contest on the greatest husband & father , my friend thought he would of been the winner without a doubt. But there was nothing he could do to please her or make her happy.
About ten years into their marriage he finally acknowledged there was something terribly wrong with her , so he suggested talking with a therapist . The therapist said his wife displayed a lot of the signs & symptoms of having a psychiatric illness called "borderline personality disorder" now some think this is a type of demonic influence , others think it's a mental illness that can be somewhat controlled with therapy & medications . But during that time there wasn't a lot of research done on it. So he didn't know how bad this would manifest out of control. But instead supported her & helped her along in life as a husband should. She was put on medication and that helped a little bit. But the terrible life still continued & he still stayed. He started to build their future with the wonderful jobs he was able to get with his education , ethics , morals , and great values. As there daughters grew up his wife taught them to hate men, lie , cheat , argue , fight , disrespect and dishonor their father. And there was nothing that he could do to stop this as it was mostly done behind his back . His wife was a stay at home mom & he worked to have and continue a good living. As she was causing discord in her own home , causing division in the multiple churches they belonged to cause she couldn't learn to like anybody , he was doing what he thought was the right thing to do by God & continue to stay. At 40 he found himself having no relationships with friends , or family , no control of any money or say so in the household & in fear everyday from the rages & evilness she displayed to him. Through all this he still looked to God for strength & guidance .
Everything else in his life was great! But his home life was unbearable & he knew she needed counseling again , but not with pastors of the church this time around. Someone who was trained to deal with illness? He told her that if she didn't change her ways this time , that he was going to have to leave . After that final session , she informed him that she wanted a divorce & he decided then & there that he wasn't going to let her abuse him or take advantage of him any longer. By the end of that week she was begging him back crying , telling him she'll change. She'll get help. But those are things that she said durning the course of their marriage & he no longer believed that. So he stood fast & continued with their legal separation that took almost 5 years . Why did it take so long ? Cause it was one nastiest divorces one has ever heard of. She kept it going so long , tried to ruin him financially , ruined his reputation in the community , eventually he even lost both of his properties all his personal items which were never returned to him, his grown children hate him because they are still under their mothers influence , after 27 years he left that relationship with literally his clothes on his back & his car. Now here comes the cool part brothers & sisters! No matter what he was going through he turned to God , he stayed in church , he lived a life that was pleasing to God & he was blessed with freedom, salvation . To this day he says he wouldn't care if he lost a hundred properties or 100 children , or billions of dollars , nothing was worse than being in that awful relationship . He didn't blame God , but took responsibility for his bad choices in life & repented! This man is truly blessed! He know has a new home , remarried to a lovely Godly women & has to step children who love him & care for him as real family should . He is a happy & content man & has the best wife in the world .
God gives & takes away.. But his forgiveness is always there & his blessings are bountiful!
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